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I'm currently in London on a much needed vacation and yesterday I attended the ever popular XXL party.

I went there with some guys I met earlier at Kings Arms and whilst we were having a beer, I saw this amazing, stocky fur ball of a man... He was short, tight, with big firm belly and ass... And he kept checking me out as much as I kept checking him out.
After a short pause, overcoming my inherent shyness, I went over and introduced myself... He was a bloke from Glasgow with thick, almost incomprehensible, Scottish accent, only in town for this party, and made a point out being "off the grid" - as in "no profiles, no facebook, no email, no nothing."
He preferred that strangers met without anyone having the advantage of knowing the other person's likes, dislikes and kinks beforehand... A viewpoint I actually find very charming, albeit a bit impractical...
He did however flag a red hanky in left pocket (fisting) and that was his way of showing his preferences.
Long story short, while we both thought the other one to be very handsome, there was no spark - and after some light conversation I returned to my previous companions.

Then one of the guys also noticed the red hanky and commented that wearing them was "sooo 80'ies" - he even had to have another friend explain him the meaning of the colour and placement...
Meanwhile he apparently hadn't noticed that I was sporting some as well (grey and hunters green, both right) and I began wondering if he had a point... I don't see many people flagging colours - whether by hankie, armbands or piping - any more .... only exception is people into fisting and the occasional yellow stripes on rubber gear....

So my questions are these: is flagging colours passé ... And am I in vain when wearing mine?
Anybody here flagging colours - and if so, care to share which ones?

Date: 2010-08-29 04:15 pm (UTC)
ext_173199: (DorePissed)
From: [identity profile]
I imagine this sort of thing varies a lot by location - but I still see plenty of hankies in the bars here in California. Mostly the "basic" colors - blue, black, grey, yellow, red - but occasionally some of the others.

Date: 2010-08-29 07:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Here we see people in the leather community flagging. These days the most common are Red and Yellow. Personally I haven't flagged in years. After it got to the point where you need to carry around a Panchromatic chart with you when you go out it all got kind of silly. And in bar lighting, is that gray or light blue? Which shade of light blue? Oh, wait! It's really a purple.

It seems that the folks that flag these days have gone out with having one particular type of sex that day. Were I to see you wearing your colors I'd gladly haul you home. But with me it's more the man I'm with that is important. Just no blood or scat.

Date: 2010-08-29 11:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
The fact that your dude is "off the grid" is hot in itself! :-)

OK, off to look up hanky codes again...

Date: 2010-08-30 04:28 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm always out of the loop.

I was new in SF in the late 70's and out one night and had a guy salivating over the size of my wide peasant hands. I had just realized he was cruising me when he came over and asked me to come home with him to fist him.

My jaw dropped. WTF?

I declined. He was ticked when I said I didn't fist. He pointed to the red bandana in my left pocket.

I have allergies, I protested.

"Why is it on the left?"
"I'm left-handed." and out of the loop.

Date: 2010-08-31 07:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
The hanky thing is bizarre and like many 1970s' things don't need to happen anymore.

Date: 2010-08-31 07:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Out and about in London it doesn't really happen anymore.
But, hell, people should be able to do what they want without being seen as "sooo 80s" or whatever.

Date: 2010-08-31 08:29 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I had heard that there are also regional variations on what the colors mean.. red in one place might mean just fucking, instead of fisting (and BOY would you be embarrassed if you mixed THOSE up..)

I think putzmeister is largely right; in a dark bar, it's hard to tell what color it is, and again, mixing up a color can be ... traumatic. (For instance if your target is wearing a black hanky, and you mistake it for navy blue... O_O)
From: [identity profile]
You also write very well in English! I imagine that you speak English very well, also. Have you ever been to Arizona? One of my first "sexual" experiences involved being led through the process of "fisting two bottoms." incidentally, neither of these men wore handkerchiefs in their back pockets, however. I haven't been to any bars outside of my city, therefore I don't know if the "hankie" code is still used, or if it is considered passe! :-)
From: [identity profile]
He he - thanks for your kind words ;-D

I've, unfortunately, never been to Arizona, but I hope to amend that some day ;-D

*hugs from Denmark*
From: [identity profile]
It's great to hear from you, handsome! I would like to correspond with you! May I add you to my friend's list, please? ((((HUGS))))
From: [identity profile]
Just add away... It's your friends list, not mine *smiles*

A word of caution - I currently don't post that often... The desire to write comes in waves and for now, I'm in a lurker-phase *LOL*



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